@partridge i've personally found that forcing people to "toughen up and get over it" when sacrificing quality-of-life does not yield good fellowship. i think we'd rather have people on our side than otherwise.
note that folks on fedi are far more open to trying out niche social media experiences than the average person. discord holds the status quo. people are used to it. you're asking a lot for them to change their experience on there, nor to mind leaving altogether. it's important to be mindful of that.